These words might sound harsh, but nonetheless they are true. Unwittingly, unconsciously, parents, who believe they love their children, usually need their children’s love, and cannot emotionally cope with the constant dispute of their authority, from what appears often to be the unappreciative, demanding, dishonest, disrespectful person in their home. They “move” away, distance themselves, commiserate with other parents in the same position, and allow their child their own “space” along with unacceptable behaviors, or react with anger, control and threats they rarely carry out. Sending them to college temporarily eases the tension. Once they finish school and move back it gets even worse. Now children often think they are adults, but feel they have little responsibility or accountability toward the parents or in their home. What is the R.E.A.L. solution?